Stop Counting. Start Reclaiming

 Sis, let’s name it plain: body count culture is nothing but patriarchy’s obsession with virginity dressed up for the internet. The way it gets pushed onto us is designed to shrink women down, to make us second-guess our choices, our worth, and our freedom.

But here’s the truth: it is not your duty to fulfill that fantasy. Your body, your experiences, and your boundaries are yours alone. The idea that you owe anyone a “clean record” is nothing more than an old script designed to keep women small.

Body count is not currency. It’s not proof of value, purity, or respectability. The whole concept reduces women to numbers, erasing the truth that our lives are layered, sacred, and whole. You are not a tally. You are not a statistic. You are an entire lineage wrapped in one body, carrying wisdom and power that can’t be counted.

And while we’re reclaiming—let’s talk orgasms. Too many of us were taught to fake them, to perform pleasure as if it were a gift to someone else. But sis, your orgasm isn’t theater. It’s sacred energy. It belongs to you. Faking it just reinforces the lie that sex is about male validation instead of your embodied joy. Reclaiming your orgasm is reclaiming your autonomy—it’s choosing honesty with yourself over appeasing someone else’s ego.

Your duty is not to present yourself as untouched, unmarked, or unchosen. Your only duty is to honor yourself—to make choices rooted in your autonomy, your values, and your timing. And yes, that includes claiming your pleasure as real, as yours, as divine.

So the next time body count comes up, remember this: you don’t carry statistics—you carry a lineage. Your body, your choices, your story—none of it belongs to someone else’s tally. It belongs to the river of women before you and the women who will rise after you.

Respect is the only thing worth presenting, and it begins with how you honor yourself.